What you think you said may not be the message that someone else heard, they may think that you said something totally different than what you heard yourself saying! Especially, young people who are preoccupied with life in general, have trouble listening. A mother says, “Johnny, I love you, but why can’t you get good grades like your sister?” Johnny doesn’t hear that he is loved. All Johnny hears is that he’s not good enough! Parents need to be careful how they communicate with their children. Listening is the greatest communication tool that we have. Do most parents take the time to really listen to their children?
Parents, coaches, and mentors, please think about the words that you say to impressionable young people. The message you deliver could be deadly, loaded with toxic shame! Take the time to listen to young people and clearly state your messages to them. Words are powerful! Whoever said, “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never harm me!” didn’t know the truth. BULLIES COME IN ALL SIZES AND AGES!
©2017 Rev. Dr. K.T. Coughlin PhD